Working with problems 处理问题
They’re everywhere we look. Here are a few thoughts on the ones that won’t go away:
它们无处不在。下面是对那些屡禁不止的问题的一些看法：
First, is it a problem or a situation? Problems, by definition, have solutions. You might not like the cost of the solution, the trade-offs it leads to, or the time and effort it takes, but problems have solutions.
首先，这是问题还是情况？顾名思义，问题是有解决方案的。你可能不喜欢解决方案的成本、它所导致的取舍，或者它所耗费的时间和精力，但问题是有解决方案的。
On the other hand, situations don’t. Situations are simply things we need to live with.
另一方面，情况则不然。情况只是我们需要面对的事情。
Once we realize that a problem we have isn’t a problem at all, but actually a situation, it’s easier to do our best to move on and thrive. Focusing on a situation is usually a source of stress, not a way forward.
一旦我们意识到我们所面临的问题根本不是问题，而实际上是一种状况，我们就会更容易竭尽全力，继续前进，茁壮成长。关注现状通常是压力的来源，而不是前进的方向。
Second, has anyone else ever solved a problem like this one in a useful way? If not, it might be a situation. See question one.
其次，有没有人曾经以一种有用的方式解决过类似的问题？如果没有，那可能就是一种情况。参见问题一。
Third, if the problem has been around for a while, it might not be an easy problem. Those tend to get solved right away. It’s probably a problem that involves more effort or trade-offs than you were hoping for. Resetting our expectations for what it might take to solve gives us the chance to recalibrate it as a situation we’re willing to live with, simply because the cost of the solution is too high.
第三，如果这个问题已经存在了一段时间，那么它可能不是一个简单的问题。这些问题往往会马上得到解决。这可能是一个需要付出更多努力或做出更多权衡的问题。重新设定我们对解决问题的期望值，让我们有机会将其重新调整为我们愿意接受的情况，原因很简单，因为解决问题的成本太高了。
And finally, some problems get better if we’re willing to talk about them. Some situations, on the other hand, simply get worse when we focus our energy and community on them.
最后，如果我们愿意讨论，有些问题就会得到改善。另一方面，当我们集中精力和社区力量时，有些情况就会变得更糟。